Social barriers in eating disorders
Social skills are a set of abilities that allow us to relate positively to people and help us to communicate and understand each other better in order to build a healthy relationship with others.
These are the different tools that allow us to create positive connections that benefit us and help us maintain our mental health, as they facilitate:
- Being able to express our emotions and thoughts.
- Practice active listening.
- Understanding different points of view in a conversation.
- To be able to cope with the different social situations of daily life.
- Dealing with conflicts as they arise.
In eating disorders, social skills are often affected because people with this disorder have to deal with anxiety, low self-esteem, feelings of shame, or constant worry about body image when interacting with their immediate environment.
The impact of an eating disorder not only affects a person's relationship with food and their body, but also their emotional and social world . Difficulty communicating and expressing emotions, or avoidance of certain social situations for fear of judgment, can trigger a cycle of isolation that perpetuates the symptoms.
Cognitive distortions in eating disorders
Which social skills might be affected?
The social skills that are most often affected in people diagnosed with an eating disorder are:
Assertive communication
It is the ability to express what we think, feel, or need respectfully and clearly, without showing aggression, submissiveness, or avoidance. People with eating disorders often tend to repress emotional expression as a defense mechanism and avoid talking about certain more personal topics or what they truly want, feel, or need, for fear of confronting the other person's reaction or possible judgment. They may also exhibit aggression when they want to control their eating or body image.
People with eating disorders have to deal with anxiety, low self-esteem, feelings of shame, or constant worry about their body image when interacting with others.
Empathy and emotional awareness
Empathy is the ability to recognize and understand the feelings of others. People with eating disorders, due to their obsession with body image or food, tend to focus on themselves , making it more difficult for them to perceive what others are feeling.
Likewise, the difficulty in valuing what they feel or think affects the emotional connection with others; and the distortion of the perception that others have of them conditions emotional expression and social relationships, and hinders trust.
Conflict resolution
It refers to the different strategies for coping with and managing interpersonal conflicts. Using avoidance as a solution to the problem ends up generating greater frustration, fear of criticism or disappointment in the other person, as well as increased tension and anxiety, which can be channeled through eating symptoms : restriction, fixation on weight, compensatory behaviors, binge eating, etc.
The perfectionistic tendencies of these individuals lead to an intolerance of mistakes and frustration, limiting their ability to handle disagreements, criticism, and social negotiation strategies. Consequently, they often avoid confrontations and conflicts, generating more misunderstandings and tension in relationships. This relational dynamic, in turn, perpetuates a poor, distorted self-concept , making them feel more fragile and vulnerable when facing problems or certain social situations.
Interaction in social contexts and healthy relationships
It is the ability to spontaneously create and maintain healthy interpersonal relationships and the ability to enjoy them.
It is common for people with eating disorders to experience high levels of social anxiety and perceive relationships with others as stressful . This is often due to concerns about their body image or because most social gatherings involve meals, dinners, or snacks. The focus shifts to food, which can trigger a fear of losing control over their eating behavior , generating even more emotional distress.
Added to this are the insecurities they may experience in certain contexts about whether they will be accepted or judged, anticipating the fear of being observed by others, of being criticized for their body, weight, and personality, and even of receiving comments about their eating habits. This resulting stress prevents the person from being present and enjoying their relationships.
On the other hand, the need for external validation can trigger a lack of authenticity , leading to a loss of self or an inability to recognize oneself because a habit has developed of neglecting and suppressing one's own needs in order to prioritize what others (believe) they need. This results in greater difficulty setting healthy boundaries and leads to relationships characterized by submission or emotional enmeshment.
Leisure time, an ally in the recovery from eating disorders
Asking for or receiving help
We are referring to the ability to recognize when external support is needed and to ask for it effectively and healthily.
People with eating disorders often resist support because they interpret help as a sign of weakness or vulnerability . They also associate help with the need to change their defense and control mechanisms—that is, their eating behavior or body image—aspects that generate even greater resistance to change.
Working on social skills is essential during the treatment and recovery process, to promote emotional well-being, self-esteem and quality of life of the person with an eating disorder.
Ultimately, social skills represent more than gestures or words; they are the invisible threads that connect us to ourselves and to the world. But when there is a distorted perception of one's own image , feelings of inadequacy, self-criticism, and silence, these threads can weaken.
Being able to recognize which skills are impaired and understanding why is the first step toward improving them. Expressing what one feels or needs, despite fear, allows one to transform pain, anguish, self-imposed demands, and self-judgment into dialogue, opening the possibility of finding understanding , refuge, affection, help, and a new perspective.
Improving social skills is an essential factor during the treatment and recovery process, promoting emotional well-being, self-esteem, and quality of life. Healing also means learning to feel, speak, and share.
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